Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

Our intimate relationships with others are often the sources of our greatest joy in life as well as our most profound distress.  At their best, relationships can help us feel secure, accepted, and cherished, like we have a safe harbor from which to venture out and face life’s many challenges.  At their worst, relationships can be accelerants for our greatest insecurities, leaving us feeling abandoned, overwhelmed, inadequate, and painfully alone. 
 
Surprisingly, most of the positive and negative feelings flow from exactly the same source: our desire to feel deeply connected to a person we love.  This is good news for relationships in distress.  Distress is not a death knell, but rather a call to action.  Most couples hear the call, but struggle with the execution.  That is where working with a trained couple’s counselor can be helpful. 
 
I use well-researched methods for improving relationships drawn from EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy) and CCT (Collaborative Couples Therapy) to help you build a stronger relationship.  I will help you identify which aspects of your relationship are most satisfying and most distressing.  Even the worst relationships have parts that are working well, and even the best have unsatisfactory aspects. We will build on what works in your relationship so that you can learn to shift your energy into the strategies that get you the connection you seek and away from unhelpful strategies that create conflict and frustration.  
 
A great relationship takes work, but the rewards for this labor far exceed the effort. 
 
I encourage you to contact me for a free initial consultation (up to 30 minutes).  I work with intimate relationships between people of all sexual and gender identities.